Blogging about a topic as polarizing as family law reform has quickly taught me to tread lightly. That’s fine. I seek only to increase opportunities for concerned fathers to be just that. I have no issue with family laws that protect women from abusive and/or negligent partners. This is an important distinction.
I was not a perfect husband and I am not a perfect father. Jesus Christ walked the earth over 2,000 years ago. He might have been perfect, but no one before or since has come close. Still, a person who truly loves their family tries. They try with all they have. I tried. It wasn’t enough. That’s OK, but others who find themselves in the position in which I found myself will definitely benefit from the resources made available to them via this blog.
I’ve been told many times that divorce is seldom accomplished amicably. I do not disagree. However, with a more level playing field for husbands/fathers who have not been unfaithful or abusive, the financial and emotional devastation that often accompany divorce can be minimized. As they should be. Any middle class adult who has strived to build an infrastructure for their family must cringe at the thought of watching helplessly as it is ravaged by an unscrupulous attorney blithely acting on behalf of a short-sighted spouse empowered by laws intended to benefit those whose lives may be endangered. Better than half the content of the Investigation Discovery network is dramatizations of divorces gone horribly wrong due to such injustices.
I do not want to see anyone hurt. I do not want to see anyone battling depression. I do not want to see children wondering when their father is coming home. I do not want to see anyone bankrupted by exorbitant and arbitrary legal fees. I do not want to see a child’s college fund liquidated without due consideration. I do not want to see the sanctity of home stripped away from anyone who does not deserve it.
Above all, I do not want to be misunderstood.