One can never predict or control the actions of others, however, if you sense trouble in your marriage, protect yourself. Go online and research or ask a friend you trust for the names of divorce attorneys who specialize in defending husbands/fathers. Granted, the attorneys on your list may be equally effective at representing wives/mothers, but it couldn’t hurt to have a lawyer who plays offense AND defense.
Be sure to squirrel away enough money for a retainer. Most divorce lawyers I contacted in Pennsylvania asked for $1,500 – $2,500. If you have chosen the right attorney, it will be money well spent. Walking into any court room unrepresented is like doing a cannonball into a wood chipper. Opposing counsel will chew you up like a stick of Orbit and the judge will grant her/his motion without looking up from the paperwork.
Get to know opposing counsel. Learning her/his tactics will prepare you for the surprise motions that are sure to come. Forget the relationship you had with your spouse. If she wants out, she won’t be reminiscing about the good old days. Rather, she will be uncommunicative and pulling all kinds of strings behind the scenes. Buddy, unless you’ve got your ducks in a row, you’ll find yourself sleeping on someone’s couch within days of being served, legally barred from the place you’ve called home for years.