There is none. Once the final papers are signed, you are stuck with more responsibility than you ever bargained for and significantly less control of when you see the kids for whom you’d lay down your life. There is no preparation for the emotional tumult you and the kids will suffer, but with time and counseling, you can all get through it. Welcome to the world of the divorced dad.
I am newly divorced. I see my kids 3 days a week and I am grateful for that; I know I am in the minority. I started this blog as a way to help other devoted fathers who have done what they should have, but will be raked over the coals by a biased family court system and soulless attorneys skilled at exploiting it. I may be a single voice shouting into a void today, but give me time.