Consider the myriad roles of the single father:
- Auto mechanic
- Financial planner
- Internet safety monitor
- Business manager
- Baby sitter
- Interior decorator
- Role model
The list for single mothers is identical. These responsibilities can be overwhelming, particularly in the midst of the emotional upheaval of divorce.
There is no “Easy” button, only the consequences of being slow to act, or worse, not acting at all. How sweet life would be if we could get by with focusing only on tasks that bring us immediate gratification!
We all have our coping mechanisms, some healthier than others. I am negotiating an extremely difficult transition from aspiring writer to published and earning author. This is not only about coping, but catharsis.
I have rekindled within myself a burning desire to create that was nearly snuffed out by pragmatism; while married, I was singularly dedicated to providing for my family. Divorce has forced me to rethink how I want to live my life. Such drastic changes as I am making require uncommon discipline. Such discipline is only established incrementally and over time. Of greater importance, once firmly entrenched, that discipline must be applied to the items listed above.
This blog is as much about my belief in its stated purpose as it is my path to a life that makes sense. Each post affirms that I can start my day making a difference and applying some elbow grease to building a better life…which brings me right back to the kids — setting an example and all. If I can spare them even a week of the uncertainty of how to live which characterized my own youth, bully for the three of us; parents who raise self-sufficient kids have a far better shot at living truly golden years.